One of the biggest attacks on Christians today is on the family. If Satan can find a way to tear apart the basic foundation within our households this will translate into our leadership within the church, and the world. Without a solid foundation in our homes by putting God first and living by his words we will fail.
Today’s so called “modern society” is a direct attack on Christians. Each generation of young Christians is fed just a small amount more as the previous generation. Satan is slowly dividing the family and we can see it everywhere in the world today. These changes come along so slowly we do not notice until it is too late. However, we have God on our side. Paul stated in Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me,” and we must use Christ as our foundation within our homes. Regardless of what the world or society teaches us.
The roles of men and women are a main focus of the attack from Satan. Things that were once considered rare (such as a two working parents or single mother) are now not only common place but encouraged in today’s society. We are now seeing that Christian family values are frowned upon and demonized by the world while we are being fed worldly ways to live and raise our children. However, our children should be brought up in the training and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). Without this solid Christian foundation our children will instead grow up as a product of the world. In order for this proper Christian training the father and mother must closely examine their roles as outlined by scripture.
The man’s role in today’s world has change drastically. Society is constantly pushing the idea that men cannot make decisions, cannot lead, and cannot or should not even handle children. This is seen in the media, TV, radio and even the workplace. This false narrative is finding its way into the church today. Men are assuming a “laid back,” follower role and not that of a leader. However, the Bible tells us the contrary. We as men and fathers must become the leader and head of the household as the Bible has instructed. In Ephesians 5:23 Paul writes “For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.” Men are not given a choice here. Paul is not saying that we can decide to be the head but we are being told to do so. We as Christian men will answer to this command.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.“ (Ephesians 5:25). We know Christ loved the church so much that He gave his life for her. Men, are we ready to do that? Are we ready to be the kind of leader like Jesus and be willing to sacrifice all for our families, wives and homes? Jesus gave us the perfect example of what a servant leader should be. His entire life while on the earth was built on serving others and sacrificing Himself for us. Are we as husbands ready to answer to this command? Are we as Christian men ready to serve the church? We must decide to assume this role. Again, scripture does not give us a choice.
In like manner women are being attacked from a completely different angle. Modern society is teaching our young ladies that they are the leaders. The narrative today is one that encourages women to not only be equal in the household but they can also be the head. In Ephesians 5:22 Paul writes “Wives, submit yourself unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Just as men must answer to their command: Ladies, are you allowing your husbands to be the head of the household? Or are we following the teachings of the world? We know that Christ is the only one head of the church (Colossians 1:18). There can only be one head of the household. A man cannot be the head of his house if his wife will not submit and allow him to be. A good leader will also love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25) and therefore decisions will be in the best interest of the Christian household. All decisions should be in accordance to the will of God.
Just like with men we are seeing this modern world view of women making its way into the church. Men are being looked at as stumbling idiots. Harsh words but that is the reality. Ladies, you have to encourage men to serve the Lord and lead in many capacities both at home and the church. Likewise we have men that are not willing to lead and be the head and sit by the sideline. I myself have struggled with this. We must get out of our comfort zones and assume the lead we have been commanded.
So how did we get here? What is Satan using to attack our families and draw us apart from God’s will? Our society pushes us to be successful. We encourage our children to be successful in the world. After all, we do want them to be able to take care of themselves. But do we put too much emphasis on worldly success? One definition of success (according to Oxford Dictionary) is “The attainment of fame, wealth, or social status”. However, in Mathew 19:21, Jesus tells the young man “If you want to be perfect, go, sell what you have and give to the poor and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me. But when the young man heard that saying he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.” Are we following the path as this young man? Are we as Christians too focused on success in the world? The pressure from the world has become so great that we cannot be successful in a worldly sense without men and women abandoning their roles defined by God. Do we push our children to follow this same path? In Mathew 6:19-21, in the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus said “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
So we must ask ourselves ‘where do put our treasure as individual families?’ If we are putting all our focus on things of the world then how can we serve God? Is putting a focus on the world leading us not to assume the roles God commanded? Are women taking leadership roles in the house in order to be successful in the world? Are we as men not being the head of the household due to the same pressures? This is not to say we cannot be successful. For after Jesus told the young man to sell his possessions his disciples heard it and asked “who then can be saved”. Matthew 19:26 states “But Jesus looked at them and said to them, with men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Therefore the foundation always starts with God. If we do not have that foundation in our home then the world can divide us and lead us down paths not intended by God.